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Ann Richardson's avatar

A very interesting read. I have been married for 62 years (yes, really) and there have been so many small changes over the years that ended up in big changes, just so much growing up we needed to do. We were 21 and 22 when we married and, worse, both graduate students so under constant pressure. It's a wonder that we made it through that first year. Indeed, I have said recently that the only reason we didn't split (for me) was that it would have proved my mother right and anything was better than that!

We had two kids 13 years apart, both did PhDs at different points, and a move from NYC to London, albeit early on. I think we have had more than 3 marriages in your sense and the best is right now, definitely best friends and definitely 'benefits'. Life has become so easy together, it's hard for me to remember when it was difficult.

And I fully agree that luck plays a huge part.

Thank you for this post. Very stimulating.

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Nancy E. Holroyd, RN's avatar

For those of us with longer marriages, I can absolutely see why you break it down into "sections".

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