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Kirsten's avatar

Lots to think about here. I know now that before my daughter was diagnosed with bipolar, anorexia, you name it, that things had been hard for her for years. Years. We just thought she was our tricky kid. And I had been a coordinator of a youth service previously so I thought I was across these things. So she suffered and suffered. We can love them and we can absolutely let them down at the same time.

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I can't even consider this. I have no children but that's not why. The complexity and depth of . . not just this situation, the relationships in this family, but that of everyone. I've had to consider, forgive, people who committed heinous crimes at various times against family members. My heart is forever shredded but it holds. I gather the good and pad it, as ridiculous as that sounds. I feel for these people, the child, the parents, the parents of the children murdered, the other students. Were the parents insensitive, or were they unwilling to admit their child was imperfect? In our society you're either normal or an outcast. Hey, knowing too many dead people means something's the matter with you, or having too many tragedies means others should avoid you. You're right about prison, it fits the definition of crazy action. The parents did not notice. Did teachers, neighbors, friends? I haven't read much of the case because it is overwhelming - and guns . Until real action on gun control occurs it hurts without any chance of healing.

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