I've been doing a lot of work and studying around trauma these past few years and I tend to lean in Mate's direction--and I think we need to widen our ideas of what trauma looks like as well. Sometimes it can just be little kids not getting their emotional needs met--not necessarily overt abuse or harm--that can set up a negative dynamic that will last for years.
I love how you dive into these topics, Kim. And now a CASA! You are amazing ❤️
Hi Tara! I feel like his addiction work is really backed up by science too. It almost feels mathematical that when you put these experiences together, people will be reaching out for ways to create comfort and calm in themselves, whatever ways they can. And this was the experience of so many people in my book. I think if we really embraced this, there could be a real movement to ensure young families are more solid, which I think could improve the success of the next gen. The data says even an extra $300 a month per child for the first 5 years of their lives actually changes brain development. So little for so much! Thanks for reading. xo
I just don't know. Once more, I need to read a piece of yours again, considering it. I've known far too many people with addictions, some managing to move past it, some just managing, some dying. I tend to give a dollar to those on the street, because I just don't know. Not my place to judge, and maybe they will use it for food. Maybe the addiction needs feeding but not my place.
Thank you for this piece, for the words, "people do better when they can," and wow! a CASA! You are amazing. Now to forward this on to my compassionate judge friend.
Compassionate judges are my favorite people! That phrase: "People do better when they can" changed everything for me. Because we were raised to think that people just "won't." Like if you are homeless, it's because you refuse to get a job, refuse to get your life together, refuse to get off drugs, but everything changes when you consider when people can't. This is the work of J Stuart Ablon and Ross Greene. Ablon wrote a great book called: Changeable. It required us to change our parenting to meet the needs of our kids and let me tell you, it saved our family. I am a believer! Thanks for reading. Love hearing from you!
I've been doing a lot of work and studying around trauma these past few years and I tend to lean in Mate's direction--and I think we need to widen our ideas of what trauma looks like as well. Sometimes it can just be little kids not getting their emotional needs met--not necessarily overt abuse or harm--that can set up a negative dynamic that will last for years.
I love how you dive into these topics, Kim. And now a CASA! You are amazing ❤️
Hi Tara! I feel like his addiction work is really backed up by science too. It almost feels mathematical that when you put these experiences together, people will be reaching out for ways to create comfort and calm in themselves, whatever ways they can. And this was the experience of so many people in my book. I think if we really embraced this, there could be a real movement to ensure young families are more solid, which I think could improve the success of the next gen. The data says even an extra $300 a month per child for the first 5 years of their lives actually changes brain development. So little for so much! Thanks for reading. xo
I just don't know. Once more, I need to read a piece of yours again, considering it. I've known far too many people with addictions, some managing to move past it, some just managing, some dying. I tend to give a dollar to those on the street, because I just don't know. Not my place to judge, and maybe they will use it for food. Maybe the addiction needs feeding but not my place.
Thank you for this piece, for the words, "people do better when they can," and wow! a CASA! You are amazing. Now to forward this on to my compassionate judge friend.
Compassionate judges are my favorite people! That phrase: "People do better when they can" changed everything for me. Because we were raised to think that people just "won't." Like if you are homeless, it's because you refuse to get a job, refuse to get your life together, refuse to get off drugs, but everything changes when you consider when people can't. This is the work of J Stuart Ablon and Ross Greene. Ablon wrote a great book called: Changeable. It required us to change our parenting to meet the needs of our kids and let me tell you, it saved our family. I am a believer! Thanks for reading. Love hearing from you!
Can’t think of anyone better to take on that role, Kim. ❤️
Thank you., Ann!