I loved the post but had to stop reading, too close to home, 4 of our 5 are autistic, 2 have been violent to the point of breaking their bones when they are frustrated, hang in there
Another fantastic essay (with gorgeous photos of Desi!) that hits all the feels, and resonates deeply. "I wonder how many bubbly dramatic girls don’t know they have autism/PDA." Ooof! <3 I'll join this Andrew Solomon book club you daydream of. Seriously. (And, glad to know you're OK after that scary fishtail in traffic!!)
I wish. i wish it were easier, for you, for your partner, for your children - for everyone. How wonderful and fortunate for these children to have parents who struggle to understand, instead of turning away. The world is better with people like you in it. Believe that.
Thank you. I think that’s the important part - “struggling to understand” We don’t have to get it right all the time, just hang in there, be curious and meet people where they are, right?
Goodness gracious. I’m reading this over my morning coffee, having just sent my neurodivergent 8yo off to school for the day. This morning was a DOOZY. “You should have never had me,” “I shouldn’t be alive,” the meanness and shouting and shame spiraling…
And your last lines hit me so hard just now. When they’re giving us a hard time we have to love them. Not 30 minutes ago, I was curled up on my bed with said child, wiping his tears in between his fits of rage. It’s not easy. But it is sacred. 🥺
Beautifully written piece! You and David are doing amazing work. Those kids will look back one day and realize the difference you made in their lives and be grateful.
I loved the post but had to stop reading, too close to home, 4 of our 5 are autistic, 2 have been violent to the point of breaking their bones when they are frustrated, hang in there
Another fantastic essay (with gorgeous photos of Desi!) that hits all the feels, and resonates deeply. "I wonder how many bubbly dramatic girls don’t know they have autism/PDA." Ooof! <3 I'll join this Andrew Solomon book club you daydream of. Seriously. (And, glad to know you're OK after that scary fishtail in traffic!!)
I wish. i wish it were easier, for you, for your partner, for your children - for everyone. How wonderful and fortunate for these children to have parents who struggle to understand, instead of turning away. The world is better with people like you in it. Believe that.
Thank you. I think that’s the important part - “struggling to understand” We don’t have to get it right all the time, just hang in there, be curious and meet people where they are, right?
Goodness gracious. I’m reading this over my morning coffee, having just sent my neurodivergent 8yo off to school for the day. This morning was a DOOZY. “You should have never had me,” “I shouldn’t be alive,” the meanness and shouting and shame spiraling…
And your last lines hit me so hard just now. When they’re giving us a hard time we have to love them. Not 30 minutes ago, I was curled up on my bed with said child, wiping his tears in between his fits of rage. It’s not easy. But it is sacred. 🥺
I LOVE THAT LINE - it’s not easy. But it is sacred.
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Beautifully written piece! You and David are doing amazing work. Those kids will look back one day and realize the difference you made in their lives and be grateful.
Thanks Dan! I know this is all familiar.